2019 dawned upon all of us a week back and we were all ready with our “New Year New Me” resolutions voluntarily or out of the sheer fad of making them and partly out of peer pressure. Apart from a few every-year same resolutions kind of list that I had prepared about the external goals that I wanted to achieve, I wanted to work on something that I had been introspecting and realising for quite some time now — using the parts of speech and certain words more sensibly in my speech…err, sentences.
Cutting to the chase, below is a list of four changes I would consciously undertake while forming sentences during my conversations from here on. You could try them too.
- Use verbs and conjunctions to create affirmation: More often than not we tend to use verbs in our sentences negatively — “I don’t think I can make it”, “Maybe this won’t work out” or “This doesn’t look easy”. How about we start using conjunctions along with verbs in our sentences for positive references? Like — “It’s difficult but let me try making it” or “Maybe this is a difficult approach. Rather let's try it this way”.
- The word “really”: This is important. We use the word really more when we are trying to prove our point. Like — “I really wanted to come”, “This proposal is going to be really valuable for your company” or “I really intended to be of help”. Stop! Let time and results prove if the really was really the really you meant. Don’t over-explain yourself. Neither over-justify. People will believe what they have to irrespective of the number of really(s) you add to your sentences.
- Get over yes: I know I just spoke about affirmation in point 1 but that’s strictly when it comes to trying new things or pushing your own boundaries (in a good way). You don’t have to say yes for things that don’t let you enjoy your little me-time, or for something that would risk your reputation or humiliate you or test your patience. Say yes to things which will make you better. NO? Then make everyone talk to the hand.
- Give no excuses: This one is the best. Jay Shetty, renowned speaker and life-transformer (who needs no introduction) released a classic webinar on how can 2019 be a year of no excuses. He speaks about 3 pillars to help you create a life without any excuses. Instead of giving excuses to ourselves and using maybe more often, we can start using yes or no more in our sentences. Either affirm or deny. Simple, isn’t it?
Let’s try using these words in our conversations a little more from now on and see the difference by the end of 2019. Let me know if you have any other words that could be added to the must-use 2019 words list in the comments below.