However, most of the experiences are usually odd.
Dating is fun, isn’t it? However, most of the experiences are usually odd. Mainly because we as a society have created certain ‘rules’ about dating but no one really knows them. When you are in your 20’s dating is more of a game. You meet new people, you hook up with them, and chances of you falling in love with them or never calling them ever again are the same as you getting a heads or a tails in a coin toss. But as you move up the age ladder, the entire game changes. You are not looking forward to a fling, instead, the focus is more on long term goals. Here are a few tips for all those in their 30’s to up their dating game. Have a look!
Be You – The oldest trick in the book. Be who you really are. There is no point pretending to be someone less. Especially now when you are in your 30’s because that would only lead to a false future.
Do not be scared to express your opinion – After crossing that 30’s threshold, you have entered a phase where putting forward your opinion is considered a good quality. On top of that, you need not worry about the possibility of your date getting ruined because of your opinions about something or someone. Be bold and confident about what you believe in.
Figure out what you want – Before you are on the verge of jumping into serious dating spree, it is highly recommended that you introspect and figure out what you actually want. Let’s face it, you are not 24 anymore, and dating is not just a game for you. Instead, it is a quest for you to finally find the one you would want to wake up to for the rest of your life. Set your priorities straight. This includes matters like marriage, open relationships, children, and other future plans.
Online dating is NOT lame – You are not in your 20’s anymore. There is no one to judge you and even if there are, you are now at an age where you probably have stopped caring about what people have to say about you. You can always try online dating and just for the record, it is NOT lame. There are plenty of people around the world who are now married to the person they met online. The internet is a weird place no doubt but it is also the place where you can meet interesting and like-minded people. You can easily check out the best dating sites for 30 somethings on the internet.
Just talk, for God’s sake – This thing applies to probably every phase of the dating life, be it the 20’s, the 30’s, or the even the 40’s for that matter. The worst thing you could do on a date is not talking. That is the ultimate nightmare that anyone can inflict upon oneself. Talking does many things, one of which is breaking the ice. When you are in your 30’s, you do not need a cheesy pickup line to break the ice, although that would really be cool. You just need to talk about anything that is related to the two of you. Just talk, please. Nobody likes awkward silences.
Stories by Vikram Singh