Editor's Note: Yesterday we carried a post about 10 Reasons Why Dating an Entrepreneur is a Bad Idea! and it raised quite a few eyebrows. We were inundated with posts from entrepreneurs to counter this article and we've picked one letter which is straight from the heart. A word of caution is that this is again about dating a 'guy entrepreneur' but it applies either way and can very well work for dating a 'lady entrepreneur' as well. Dear Anonymous,
Thank you for writing this. It is not very often that we see the personal side of an entrepreneur spoken off.
I also hate that you had to bullet your arguments and break something emotional into multiple parts. Whatever happened to being dillogical. Entrepreneurs are different. Your regular bollywood romantic portrait or the college affairs won't do justice to this perspective. Yes, there are negatives to dating an entrepreneur and there are positives too. But I doubt if we can conclusively say is it is a good idea or a bad idea, it is just a different flavour of relationship.
Entrepreneurs can be busy and time is something that is limited for all of us. You surely can't be expecting a relationship where he picks you up every other day from office and you both get into a syndrome of 'meri life = teri life, teri life = meri life'. You would have your independence. As one entrepreneur lady (and an entrepreneurs wife) once told me, 'I have decided no longer to be a doormat for people'. It is just a much more mature and empowering relation to be in. Think about it!
You may not be called as often or honored with expensive gifts. For whatever reasons you choose to measure the 'ROI' in the relation with gifts… look around, the (temporarily) poor entrepreneur may have more to offer.
By the way, for a change do consider treating and gifting him, he would love it. He isn't used to it and he doesn't even know how much he needs it. Some of the successful ones had brilliant ladies who backed them with stability (and vice versa)!
He is intelligent. Yes, Indeed. He needs to prove it again and again. To investors, customers, users, prospective employees, family and the bed bugs. It becomes a habit, I know. It takes some time to get over it and optimize. Apologies on behalf of your man till he finds that balance. You may need to demand your time, (personal request) ask him to stop working on Sundays please!
Also do see that he is also foolish to continue struggling in an attempt to create something of his own. Strong beliefs and ideology is a given.
Entrepreneurs are lonely. They have little means of expressing how much sh*t they are in. For one, they cannot afford to lose the confidence they raise in people around them. Be it family, investors, friends or colleagues. They cannot let their stress pass on to others. Their curse is to continue motivating others, nobody cares for their motivation. Heck, nobody cares for whether they succeed or not.
Lady, you have a great responsibility to understand a tough guy trying to move mountains. Yes, do not date an entrepreneur if you aren't prepared for occasional hiccups and cannot add to his strength. But remember, when you need help, you probably have the best to support you.
He can be there for you without those usual constraints. He isn't the mamma's boy who will quit on you easily, nor is he the one who will fall for every second girl he meets. The tough coconut that you see is way too sensitive from within.
PS: I would let the girls who expect to get kidnapped call their rich dads for the ransom, the newbie entrepreneur probably can't afford it :)
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